Am I justified in being upset when somebody disrespects me?

So often in life we're tempted to validate our feelings, to say, well, I feel this way and it's important. And when we really are feeling full of ourselves we say, everyone else needs to acknowledge or pay attention to how I'm feeling about this. This is particularly the case with anger, but a lot of times even with feelings of self pity and pride and egotism. That's why they have that saying, feelings are not facts. Feelings are not facts. Feelings are just feelings. Unfortunately in our modern day, especially with the advent of this Western psychological culture, we've put a big emphasis on validating our personal feelings, and what it does is it creates a dichotomy between the truth and reality and how I am interpreting the situation. This is why oftentimes when I'm in a conversation with somebody I'll say to them, if you were a saint, do you think that you would have responded this way? Because it's very easy to say, well, I'm upset, this person said this and they did that, or my spouse did whatever, and they're very impassioned about this and they feel very strongly, and the whole mindset behind it is, I am right, I am justified for feeling this way. And then you say, okay, so if you were a saint would you respond like this? And immediately people begin to see the foolishness of what they're doing, because they realize if they were a saint they would never respond this way. And I'll be honest with you, I got this from conversing with myself many years ago. I would look at situations and how I responded to them and just ask myself, if you were a saint would you be angry about this? And inevitably the conclusion ninety eight percent of the time that I had these conversations with myself was, if I was a saint I would not be angry about this. If I was a saint I would not be offended by this. If I was a saint I wouldn't be hurt by this. But I'm not a saint, so I'm not going to validate my feelings. I'm not going to say that this is legitimate. I'm not going to give this any time or energy. And what ends up happening is, in that way we end up crushing our own egotism, our own pride, our own self validation, because we become so enamored with ourselves and our own thinking. We see a saint, and a saint says, I'm so glad that this person insulted me today, because I needed that for my humility. I was puffed up and thinking too much of myself. And so you have a saint who has this perspective that says, man, this insult was good for me. And then in our own lives what ends up happening? We catch an insult and we're like, how dare they say that to me, who do they think they're talking to. A saint goes through a circumstance and somebody tries to make them angry and they go, oh, I need to pray for them, they're really struggling today, they're having a bad day. I'll pray for them, I'll do an akathist for them, I'll go do some prostrations for them, because my brother is struggling. But somebody does it to us and we think, ah, they're always doing this, that knucklehead, on and on and on in this internal conversation.